Why I’m Not a Mrs (Yet…)

“Prov 31:10 ‘who can find a virtuous woman..’ The ? ‘who can find’ suggests she is rare. Rare items are ALWAYS more valuable. #Imararefind”

This simple sentence served as my Facebook status yesterday.  Sometime throughout the day it sparked a little bit of “inbox chatter” regarding the possible reason(s) why I’m not a Mrs.

When you’re unmarried at my age, EVERYONE and their blind uncle is trying to figure out what’s the “story”.  Some will even concoct a story for you.  Single sisters you KNOW what I’m talking about, right?  That’s a subject for a whole different post.

Anyhoo, in the midst of this friendly email conversation (because inquiring minds do want to know why I’m not a Mrs.), the following verse of scripture just seemed to pop into my head.

Matthew 13:44 NASB – “The kingdom of heaven is like a treasure hidden in the field, which a man found and hid again; and from joy over it he goes and sells all that he has and buys that field.

Do you remember that pair of jeans you found that were just right for you?  You know, kinda like the ones I wrote about in this post last New Years Day.  Or maybe it was a pair of shoes.  Yeah, you’re reminiscing now. 🙂  You didn’t have the right amount of money to get them at that particular time, so what did you do?  You “inadvertently” (umm hmmm) hung those jeans back on the wrong rack, or you turned that shoe box around so the size was no longer visible to passers-by.  And then you prayyyyed that whatever it was – jeans or shoes – would be there when you returned to claim it.  Now you may not have sold all you had for them, but you were going back for your treasure.

Obviously our material things are no comparison to the Kingdom of Heaven, but you get where I’m going.

This man sold all he had, because he had found a treasure that valuable.

I kept reading this one simple verse over and over again.  I thought to myself, “Yes, Lord!  By all means, the Kingdom of God is that valuable, but what does that have to do with why I’m not a MRS.?!?!”  lol…

Then He showed me.  Do you know what else is that valuable?  Well, in this case it’s a “who else”.  You are!  I am!  I tell you, I’ve sold it all and given it all away just to lay claim to the valuable treasure that is ME, and what a process it’s been!

To lose everything, or to give it all away, may sometimes be a bit sentimental or even downright painful.  However, prior to prior to ever becoming a Mrs, it was imperative that I first learn two valuable lessons:

  1. I must be completely convinced that I am a most valuable treasure to God, my heavenly Father.  After all, He gave all He had, His son Jesus Christ, just for me.
  2. I must become that valuable to myself.

It’s imperative that I accomplish these two before I will ever be viewed as a treasure worth coming back for (or not letting go) to anyone else.

My Twitter and Facebook (including Full Circle Women’s Fellowship) statuses from today read:

When you don’t know how much you’re worth, people will treat you according to how much they’re willing to spend. Know your value!

If you’re wondering if that’s really true, contact me, and I can tell you some stories.  I didn’t know that before, and THAT (for anyone else out there who may be a wee bit curious) is most likely why I’m not a Mrs….YET.   Many a woman has walked into matrimony without knowing her worth, and the tales of her growing pains are often enough to make a grown man cry.  Believe me!  I hear them all the time!!

“…and from joy over it he goes and sells all that he has and buys that field”

I sold it all.  I bought the “field”, ladies.  I have the treasure.  I’m worth far more than rubies or jewels.  And now, maybe becoming a Mrs. is not too far off.  Maybe…  We’ll see what the Lord has to say about that.

Wise, Virtuous, Valuable,

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The One Thing You Must Do in 2011

Happy New Year everyone!  I’m always excited about a new year, but as we approached the yawn, stretch, and final awakening of 2011, I swear something in me was dancing a little jig!  So to add to my extra New Years lift, I created some new New Years traditions for myself.  While doing so, I stumbled across one thing we must do in 2011.  Before I get to that, though, I just have to share with you some of my new New Years traditions:

1.  Hair:  I usually (if the bank account agrees) get my hair done before the New Year.  There’s just something about having a fresh hairdo to greet the New Year, don’t you agree?  This year, I tried a new salon, new stylist and a new style!  I was very pleased with the results.  What do you think?

New do for a New Year!

2.  Eyebrows/Manicure: Well, now, I couldn’t have a new hairdo without doing something with those BLAH brows!  Oh yes, the eyebrows got it!  I get mine threaded.  (OUCH, is right!)  This past NYE, I tried a new salon.  Ladies, I was able to get my eyebrows AND nails done in one spot!!!  I tell you this.  Eyebrow torture has to be the ultimate in female “pampering” rituals, right ladies?!  lol….  I mean, if done properly, it’s like getting a 5 minute face lift where the end really does justify the means! (BTW, the picture above was taken PRE-Operation Brow Clean-up 🙂 )

3.  Pajamas: NEW JAMMIES!!!!  Now I’ve never done this before, but I did it this year and LOVED it.  I bought a cute pair of new, girly PJs – nothing fancy or expensive by any means, just new, CUTE, and comfy!  On NYE night (since my church doesn’t hold NYE services, I stayed inside for the night), I showered, sprayed on a little perfume and slid into my new jammies!!  I enjoyed a phenomenal evening of movies, munchies, writing, and of course prayer to bring in the New Year.  This new tradition was the ULTIMATE IN GIRLY for my NYE!  Left me wondering why I don’t do that EVERY night (and I just might start)!!  I love to look and feel like a woman, and those new jammies hit the spot – had me giggling to myself, like a little girl, all night!

I’m still smiling!  🙂

Did I mention that I just LOVE BEING A GIRL?!!!!

4.  Clothes: I purchased a nice new outfit that I’ll probably wear on our first “non-casual” day back to work.  My office has blessed us with one final day of denim on Monday, so Tuesday my little outfit will make its debut.  I can’t wait!

5.  Journal: Last, but definitely the most significant, I bought a brand new journal!  Those who know me know that I go through journals like water, so a new journal is certainly not a novelty.  The tradition is that I will now begin a new journal on New Year’s Day.  No matter how many pages are left in the existing journal, at 12:01am January 1 I must close it, label it (Don’t laugh at me, but I do have that many journals!), and store it away with its journal sisters.  Of all my new traditions, this one was the most important.  Earlier in the week, I asked the Lord to give me a way to symbolically release the events of 2010 and prepare for the story He’s written for me in 2011.  By starting a new journal, I was able to lay them to rest.  May they truly rest in peace.

I’ll be honest with you.  I didn’t even realize my new journal was God’s answer to my prayer until I picked up my pen and began to write in the early A.M. hours of 2011.  I felt an overwhelming sense of newness, freshness, joy, and peace.  And then it hit me…  My new traditions, including new words on new pages, are symbolic of a new story that I must live out in this new year.

All of this brings me to the one thing you must do in 2011.  The good, the bad, and the ugly of an old year are now archived as old news.  I must leave them there, and so must you.  My New Years challenge to you is that you linger no longer in thoughts or deeds of the past.  A new chapter has begun, and it’s time we turn our full attention to the story the Lord has already written for our lives in this year.  So, if you haven’t done so already, you can do it today.  Find your way to formally say good bye to the past, and prepare for the new chapter in your story.  Feel free to leave a comment and let me know what you did.  I’d love to hear from you!

Wise, Virtuous, Valuable,

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