Seasons Change

“There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven
A time to give birth and a time to die; A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted.
A time to kill and a time to heal; A time to tear down and a time to build up.
A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn and a time to dance.
A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones; A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing.
A time to search and a time to give up as lost; A time to keep and a time to throw away.
A time to tear apart and a time to sew together; A time to be silent and a time to speak.
A time to love and a time to hate; A time for war and a time for peace.”
~Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8, NASB

Happy Autumn, dear sisters!  I don’t know about where you are, but if my calendar didn’t tell me today was the first day of Autumn the arrival of this new season might very well go unnoticed by me.  The world outside my window is 90+ degrees today, and 90 degrees spells Summer to me!  So in honor of the lingering Summer summer (which, by the way was a scorcher this year), I am STILL wearing my sandals AND tossing in a sundress or two for good measure.  Oh yeah….  I don’t give them up, especially not my sandals, until Jack Frost is nipping at my pretty little toes! 🙂

Even though my toes rebel and the Lord has not seen fit to bless us with the cooler temps of Fall, the season has officially changed.  Before long we will stand in awe as the leaves give glory to the Father in heaven by adorning the trees in an array of rich, vibrant colors!  We like to call those colors “earth tones”.  LOL…  Then they will shed themselves, fall to the ground, and bless someone (not me) with a reason to use that good old RAKE that’s been feeling just a little lonely in the garage for the past several months. LOL…  Ahhh yes, Autumn/Fall is upon us, and we’ll feel its true essence soon enough.

In the meantime, have you noticed that even though it’s still hot outside, we are somehow still aware when the seasons are changing.  It’s as if we have some kind of internal timer embedded deep within us that starts to tick a bit louder or ring periodically to prepare us for the changing of the seasonal guards.

And so the story goes with our lives, as well.  King Solomon tells us in Ecclesiastes 3:1 that there is a time, a season (depending on what version of the Bible you’re using) for everything.

Lately, life has been shifting so fast around me.  As I began reflecting on all of the movement – the ins and outs, old and new, endings and beginnings – for a moment, it seemed almost impossible for my mind to make sense of it all.  Then it dawned on me.  The seasons of my life are changing.

When I sat down to write this post, I started to stop with verse 1, above.  However, as I read the verses that follow I realized Solomon gave us a lot of food for thought in those first 8 verses.  I could write a WHOLE LOT today.  I could write a whole lot ANY day, but I digress….  Instead, I simply want to challenge you to take some time to consider God’s time for every purpose under heaven.

What season are you in?

Do you sense the season of your life changing?

Do you WISH the season of your life would change? (In some ways, I know I do!)

Which time(s) that Solomon mentions in the passage of scripture above can you truly relate to these days?

Do you need a prayer for wisdom for your new season or a prayer for healing from your old season?

I hope you’ll share your thoughts with me.  See you in the comments!

Wise, Virtuous, Valuable,

A Life Changing Understanding

Wisdom [is] the principal thing; [Therefore] get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding. – Proverbs 4:7 NKJV

Over the weekend, while doing some online research, I made a discovery that I am already sensing had an immediate impact on my life.

I was working on a chapter (for the book I am FINALLY writing) where I share about a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship I was in for approximately 7 years, beginning in college.  I googled the phrase “types of abuse” and stumbled across a document entitled “Impact of Verbal and Emotional Abuse”.  I was certainly not prepared for what I would read.

“People often minimize the impact that a verbal abuse has on a person’s overall well being and happiness. A woman who is experiencing verbal and emotional abuse might feel the following emotions:”

  • A distrust of her spontaneity
  • A loss of enthusiasm
  • An uncertainty about how she is coming across
  • A concern that something is wrong with her
  • An inclination to reviewing incidents with the hopes of determining what went wrong
  • A loss of self-confidence
  • A growing self doubt
  • An internalized “critical voice”
  • A concern that she isn’t happier and ought to be
  • An anxiety or fear of being crazy
  • A sense that time is passing and she’s missing something
  • A desire not to be the way she is- “too sensitive,” etc
  • A hesitancy to accept her perceptions
  • A reluctance to come to conclusions
  • A desire to escape or run away
  • A tendency to live in the future, e.g. “everything will be great when/after…”
  • A distrust of future relationships

Wow….

Imagine my initial sadness to find that nearly a decade after God saved me from myself and delivered me from this volatile relationship that was ripe with negative potential, I have still been living under the impact of the abuse.  Of the 17 items listed above, I can relate to every single one of them.  The effects have been paralyzing.  *SIGH*  I’m sure that if I could turn red, my face would have adopted a nice hue of BEET!

Still, after reading the document, an unexpected peace began to blanket me.  Then I began to wonder.  “Where is this peace coming from?”  My guess is it comes from the fact that now I have an answer, an answer I wasn’t even seeking, but an answer God knew I needed.  He led me to understanding, and I could not be happier.

Happy [is] the man [who] finds wisdom, And the man [who] gains understanding; – Proverbs 3:13 NKJV

I applied my heart to know, To search and seek out wisdom and the reason [of things], To know the wickedness of folly, Even of foolishness [and] madness.Ecclesiastes 7:25 NKJV

It seems that as I seek out wisdom, the Lord honors my search and gives me understanding, as well.

I believe this simple document provided me with a life changing understanding.  I am now equipped with knowledge and empowered to say, “No more!” to the impact of this decade old abuse on my life.  Authentic, complete healing, that I didn’t even realize I needed, can now commence.  And to that I say, “Welcome!”

For me, the neatest part of it all is realizing that I opened the door to all of this by being obedient and walking out at least one of the Lord’s assignments for my life, writing my book.  I had to giggle as I thought, “Lord, is this why You’ve been bugging me about this book?”   LOL…

Now to make sure that credit is given where it’s due, click here to be taken directly to a copy of the document mentioned above.  You may want to use it with your women’s group, share it with a girlfriend, or keep it for yourself.  Click here to be taken directly to the Center For Relationship Abuse website.  The site is the online home for an organization out of California.  It contains a lot of valuable information regarding physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, economic abuse, and academic abuse.

Lastly, as God teaches me and gives me new revelation I immediately think of and want to share it with you, my sisters.  Stumbling onto this information this weekend was like receiving a surprise invitation to a freedom party.  It’s my prayer that, from reading this post, maybe one of you will receive your invitation to the party, as well.  RSVP immediately, and let the healing begin.

Bye for now… 🙂

%d bloggers like this: