The Experience of Love

Whew!

May I just note that my Love is in the Air post from a few days ago really generated some MAJOR traffic to my blog home, far more than I’m used to getting. WOW! I mean, this was the likes of rush hour in my city, all for my little corner of the blog neighborhood. I hope it’s a preview of things to come, because I love sharing with you all. Now if I could just convince my visitors to leave a comment. *Hint:Hint* Hmph… I guess I’ll have to work on that one. Anyhoo, it was wonderful seeing how this positive four letter word still commands such attention.

Love is a pretty wonderful topic, isn’t it? Let’s face it; it’s something we all enjoy hearing about, talking about, and definitely experiencing first hand. Some of us spend our entire lives in pursuit of it. Some of us are disappointed when we find it, only to discover it wasn’t the real thing at all. It was just an illusion, a counterfeit, an imposter!

Confession: Over the years, I’ve become pretty well-versed in the “illusion, counterfeit and imposter” areas.

No sympathy needed. These experiences taught me priceless lessons. One such lesson is it’s impossible to truly know what love is – what it looks and feels like – without considering the source of love. Here is what I found:

1 John 4:8b – …for God is love.

GOD. IS. LOVE!

I can tell my last post ignited a mini firestorm of curiosity and led many new visitors to my little blog home. They may have been intrigued by the picture and possibly expecting to read some big BLING announcement. If that was the case, I’m sorry to disappoint. However, the real jewel in that post was that small passage of 8 verses in 1 Corinthians 13, and I hope you didn’t miss this treasure. Those verses outline, what I consider to be, the character and personality of love. Understanding this passage is crucial to navigating, with wisdom, the most pivotal relationships in our lives – relationships with family, friends, and (if the Lord wills) future husbands for us single girls. Knowing ourselves is one aspect. Knowing the origin and character of love is another. Without the proper perspective, we are at risk of mismanaging, or even being abused in the name of, this sweet gift.

Again, this is surface talk. We’ll go deeper later, and I’ll even share some of my personal love-like experiences that led me to the lesson I mentioned above. That lesson moved me from a painful path to a positive one. The new path is reflected in the picture you saw in the last post. So far, so good… 🙂 (If you missed it and you want to know what all the hype was about, click here.)

Until next time…

Completely ME,

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M is for Marriage

I believe in marriage.

There! I said it! I believe in marriage as God originally designed – one man, one woman, till death. I believe that healthy families are built on the foundation of healthy marriages. These healthy families then become the pillars of healthy communities. The payoff is great and potentially endless. Healthy marriages, healthy families, healthy communities – this must mean that there are some healthy individuals in the mix somewhere. Wouldn’t you agree?

As an unmarried woman in my latEST (and I do mean as late as they can get) thirties, I used to be afraid to talk about my reverence for matrimony outside my circle of close friends, family, or people who knew a little more about me than just my name. Why? Well, let’s face it. Unfortunately, the first assumption people have when they hear a single woman talk too much about marriage is certainly not that she’s an advocate or supporter who may see a bigger picture. Instead the label applied to her is something closer to, oh let’s say, DESPERATE. You’re laughing because if you’re an unmarried woman (especially if you’re in your latER or latEST thirties, yourself), you KNOW I’m telling the truth.

Well, at Completely You, I plan to do a lot of talking about marriage, because it’s my blog and I can talk about marriage if I want to (That doesn’t sing quite as well as the “It’s my party…” song, but you get the idea).

There are a gazillion reasons why a woman may want to be married. Sure, there are some women whose starry eyes can’t see beyond some bling to blind their girlfriends and their dream of a wedding of Kardashian caliber. Others are simply afraid to be alone. Most people – men and women – would prefer not to travel life’s journey alone. I, too, am one of the, but marriage always meant a little something extra to me.

These days my heart grieves as I watch one marriage after another disintegrate; for I know that it’s only by God’s grace that I am not included in that number. I’ve personally spoken to a number of women who have walked the path of a broken marriage. As they adjust their rear view mirrors to take a look back, they each can see and admit they had no idea who they were (their identity, who God created them to be) before they said “I do”. No one told them it was important.

I can’t say that anyone told me either, and trials and errors led to a trail of unhealthy relationships. So, I began to wonder. If you don’t know who you are, how will you know you’re saying “yes” to the right person, to God’s best for you? As I reviewed my relational track record it all became clear. The mistakes I made were evidence that there was no way I could know who was good for me until I had a clear understanding of who I was created to be. Until then, the power and influence of the healthy marriage I so reverenced would continue to elude me and another potential relational disaster would be on the prowl.

I must stop here, even though I know this post is incomplete. I guess that means there will be more to come on this subject. In the meantime, here are a few questions for my unmarried girlfriends out there:

What do you believe about marriage? You don’t have to tell me, but think about it.

Do you know enough about the woman God created you to be to recognize the man He created for you?

What kind of relationship (if any) are you in now?  Is it one that reflects a complete you or an incomplete you?

Completely ME,

 

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